"Take the first step to create the connection.”
Have you ever walked into a room full of people and felt invisible? You scan the crowd, searching for a familiar face or an easy conversation to slip into, but instead, you hesitate. Your mind races—What if they ignore me? What if I say the wrong thing? What if I’m not interesting enough?
This hesitation, this moment of doubt, is where influence is built or lost. Not because others don’t want to connect with you but because influence requires initiative—the courage to take the first step.
The truth is that influence isn’t about having power or status. It’s not about being the loudest or most charismatic in the room. It’s about building genuine relationships that create trust, inspire action, and open doors to new opportunities.
The Fear That Holds You Back
We all experience the fear of rejection. It’s human nature to hesitate, overthink, and assume that others won’t be interested in what we say. But let’s flip the perspective—what if the person you’re afraid to approach needs to hear from you? What if they’re waiting for someone to take the first step?
Strong relationships, life-changing opportunities, and powerful collaboration start with one conversation. The question is: Will you be the one to start it?
3 Steps to Proactively Build Influence:
Reach Out First – Don’t wait for connections to come to you. Be bold enough to introduce yourself, send that message, or invite someone to grab a coffee. The people who grow their influence aren’t waiting on the sidelines—they’re stepping forward.
Be Consistent – Relationships aren’t built in a single exchange. Authentic influence is cultivated over time. Follow up, show up, and invest in others without expecting immediate returns. The strongest networks are formed through persistence and sincerity.
Follow Up with Intention – A quick check-in, a thoughtful email, or remembering a small detail from a past conversation can make you unforgettable. People don’t just remember words; they remember how you make them feel. Be the person who follows through.
Key Takeaway:
Influence isn’t about luck, status, or being in the right place at the right time. It’s about taking action, building trust, and showing up consistently. You don’t need permission to connect with others—you need the courage to start.
Your Challenge:
This week, take the first step. Start a conversation with someone new—a colleague, a potential client, or a leader you admire. It doesn’t have to be perfect; it must be genuine. The connections you build today could shape your future in ways you never imagined.
Will you take the step?
Best Regards,
Marques Ogden
Podcast Host & Keynote Speaker
